That said, if he’s aware and on board with the fact that you’re transitioning what was briefly a physical sexual relationship into a phone-based one, and he carries no expectations beyond those, I don’t see anything wrong with what you’re doing. I don’t actually see the boundary that you’re asking about, so I advise you to erect one that is more substantial. It seems quite likely that your spurned third will at some point request a repeat that you will have to turn down, probably in confusing terms (“It was fantastic! But nah … ”). Regardless, continuing to flirt with someone that you aren’t interested in having sex with again is essentially inviting annoyance and awkwardness. How can you have a “fantastic” sexual experience that is lacking in physical chemistry? That’s like taking a bath without getting wet. Your situation is so mired in mixed signals they’re even embedded in your telling of it to me, an innocent bystander.
